This is the bakery I'd stop in after visiting and
caring for Florence.
On Florence's last Saturday, I pried my fingers out of her tightly held grasp and said I had to go. She asked me to stay but I had nothing left inside and needed to go home to nothing so I could start all over again. So I said what I knew she'd absolutely understand. I said I had to go home and
work.
"
Go. Go do your work."
She said it the way we had all been raised to say it.
Your Work was more important than anything. It was more important than love or family or illness or even death. In fact, when
her mother died, Florence delayed the necessary next steps because she was inundated with work and rehearsals and teaching and supporting
Louise for her senior recital.
That last Saturday was balmy so I got what I always got at this bakery on Grand Street. One
pork bun and a cup of tea with milk and sugar. Then I sat in Chrystie Park and
watched all the men I never grew up with run around the soccer field.
Florence died two days later.
For years, I repeatedly asked myself if I could have stayed longer. A
friend who is a funeral director says, "Don't chew." There are many cows in her country so this makes sense.
Now,
lovely people live in Florence's old home and there are other lovely people looking to buy Florence's old home. An irreversible process has begun.
For only the second time
since I cleaned out this place, I visited. I said things and I heard things. At some point there was nothing left and I headed to
the Boat that took me to a quieter neighborhood and a kinder night and a bed I couldn't have dreamed of in
my insomnia.
On the way, I stopped in at the bakery. It was not an homage or nostalgia. It was simply what one did after visits like that.
The weather too rainy and cold, I sat inside with my usual cup of tea and
pork bun and listened to a gaggle of men talk, laugh, argue, and I suspect check the racing sheets. Their chatter of Tagalog and English felt like
Christmas lights to me - bright and dancing.
One day in March of 2008, I started writing the city I knew as intimately as I knew Florence. And found I barely knew either. When you are home, when you are in family, it is as normal as breathing and yet as mysterious as prayer.
As I walked with Florence to where she needed to go, and as I continued on without her, the urgency to witness and document and make sure the New York we knew as intimately as family and as mysterious of breathing never left.
It is not an homage or nostalgia. It is, simply, what one does when one comes home.
7 comments:
Beautiful. This brought tears to my eyes.
Wonderful post!
Beautiful and full of peace.
Thank you Claire. I'll remember "don't chew"
nloadovessay darytI didn't say to you how very much I love your blog. Thank you so much for it.
beautiful!
I started writing the city I knew as intimately as I knew Florence. And found I barely knew either.
Words with edge and heart. beautiful.
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