Tuesday, October 7, 2014

The Old Bag


Goldie, quite happy being in the bag

















Florence's satchel finally came down from high cupboards.  When you need a ladder to get to stuff, it's easy to forget a person's life is packed away up there.

This bag is archaic compared to how travel is done these days.  No wheels.  No shoulder strap.  No knapsack.  Just a satchel.  Used briefly in later years to cross the East River or the Hudson for nights spent not in her bed.

When she was young, she hitchhiked up and down the eastern seaboard, well definitely to Washington D.C. or so she told me.  Just said to Sophie one day she was heading out and would be back soon.

Where those days less dangerous, or did young girls just say less?

And, in early marriage, she and my father biked long and hard all over the place, definitely to Philadelphia.

But her first plane ride was when she was way past 60.

And she never left the country.  Not even to Canada.  Just San Francisco and North Carolina.  And during a turbulent reunion with her first love, to New Rochelle.  This was one of the bags she carried.

The need to stay home greater than any curiosity about other places, the old satchel eventually got put to use doing other things.

Like secreting away papers and pictures and letters and magazines and scraps of paper and hidden thoughts that were a full portrait of her life, her goals, her daily duties as an artist.  Even if no one else knew about it.

I look at a lot of catalogs these days, an old habit left over from my childhood love for Sears & Roebuck's .   So many of these glossies aren't selling me functional Keds.  Instead, they are selling the look of a life well lived.
 
And so much of it looks like how Florence lived.

She may not have traveled to a lot a places, but she went far.

And she had a great bag.

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Sunday, October 5, 2014

Sunday Memories Of New Years To Come

Stuck with an old fashion cold, a favorite encore to begin the New Year right.

Originally posted Tuesday, October 7, 2008



I go to Little Gdynia to meet Doc for a meal.

Faye is there with her grandson. Her husband, Leslie is now gone a year at least. That means she'll be able to say kaddish at the services next week for him. All I see is that day he boasted how she was the smartest math teacher in the world as she gently put his arm into his jacket. They both survived the war and the camps but met each other here in New York when they came to start a new life, a new year.

Faye is now drained, her eyes watery. She may be facing 90 but she can't quite see it. Her grandson talks animatedly to her, like he is trying to live six lives for her so she isn't so damn lonely dieing without the man she loves.

I go over to say Good Yontiv. The grandson tells me he now is in Los Angeles. No, not the TV business. His girlfriend got into rabbinical school. Thank G-d, I say. Faye beams.

Five men yell and laugh in the back. The Right this, the Left that, Stalinism and....

Doc skips in. Pierogis and kielbasi and little cups of soup. Sour cream, sauteed onions, I have a chocolate egg cream. Talk pours out faster than delicious rain from another season, mothers and lovers and hopes and grief and hunger and peace and dreams. Desire.

For a new year for a new year for a new year.

The men all laugh and voices rise into chords from a Schoenberg symphony. Suddenly a glass breaks on the tile floor.

"Mazel Tov!" we shout to them.

"What!? Now you're married!?" one shouts back.

"No! You're married." we retort.

Faye's grandson is waving to me from the door. I jump up, a kiss on Faye's cheek. She says, pointing to him, kvelling like crazy, "This is my grandson." I don't say I know you told me. I just grin a billion smiles for her so maybe the joy evaporates her permanent tears. I feel my own eyes soften with age each second.

Doc makes me laugh just when I'm swallowing mushroom barley. We talk about all the meals we ate on Yom Kippur. I win. Two years ago from the 35th Street Chinese bakery a pork bun for breakfast before I realized I was eating tref on the holiest of the holies. She's runner up because she made dinner reservations this year for right after the fasting begins.

Since it's between Rosh Hoshanna and Yom Kippur, we don't count the kielbasi.

The men, windbreakser, comfy shoes, relaxed pants, those faces we know in our fathers our uncles our neighbors our lives.

One says, "you sure we're not married?"

"You are," we say. "But to him..." pointing to his old friend.

"Oy! him!?"

"What? You thought you were going to be happy?"

"Wasn't the first two times...."

"Good night, girls," they call to us, leaving with little bags of dessert or dinner.

"Good night, Good Yontiv, shona tova, a happy new year..."

A new year a new year a new year...

Friday, October 3, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving
And Ready To Make Home A Home


IF IT'S FRIDAY, 
IT'S FRIDAY'S CHILD!

Why, you might ask, does a blog that explores New York's disappearing landscape, family and home, 
write about cats and dogs up for adoption?


Why indeed. 
Meet Jupiter.

  


Click here to find out.


Meanwhile, at Social Tees 

 cats and dogs, 

kittens and puppies

are just waiting to show you  
what real love is all about 
Just like one kitten did to me 
not so long ago.
 
GOING HOME!!!!


Captain, 10 weeks old just got adopted!!!

 WANTS TO GO HOME!!!!


Harley, a sweet-as-peaches southern belle, just arrived in the big city and is ready for her closeup. This girl is 4 years old, 23 lbs, and has a very friendly and mellow disposition. She's great with other dogs and cats and such a little love bug, friendly with all people. She is fully housebroken and has great manners, too! Adores playing tug of war an even enjoys bath time. 

Interested in adopting? Complete an application at www.socialteesnyc.org!

READY TO GO HOME!!!



PLEASE HELP THIS SPECIAL SENIOR IN LOS ANGELES!!!


Social Tees team landed in Los Angeles Tuesday and met this hearbreakingly gentle soul at the kill shelter.  
Bubbles was scheduled to be put to sleep yesterday morning, but they got her out of there and are now on a mission to let her live the rest of her days in the comfort she deserves. 
She is a 12-pound beagle mix, was adopted out as a puppy 12 years ago from the very same shelter.  She is 13 years old now and was dumped because her owner had no time for her and neighbors were complaining she was left lying outside alone for 12 hours a day. 
It is too sad to imagine that once-loved pets are left to languish and then abandoned to die in such a traumatic way just because they have gotten old. Social Tees is now working on GIVING THIS GIRL THE EXTRA SPECIAL CARE she should have been getting all along. 
They need to get her geriatric veterinary care including blood work and a full dental, and they need a place for her to stay! They are hoping to place her in a forever home in the Los Angeles area asap, but will fly her back to NYC when they leave if they haven't found just the right spot for her.

PLEASE HELP contribute to her care via  their fundraiser here https://fundrazr.com/campaigns/asRrf/ab/615Sw0? and please email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you are in the LA area and can foster or want to adopt Bubbles.

ALREADY HOME!!!


A bit over a year ago we got Goldie from Social Tees.  And life got getter.

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Thursday, October 2, 2014

Yizkor (Remember) For Florence


Florence


 It's hard to keep track exactly when she died.

First day of Rosh Hoshonah for sure but every year that date changes.

September 30th.

But sometimes I think no it was October 1st because that's when I finally wrote everything down.

I don't miss her every day.  When her birthday comes around I remember it because it's right after Thanksgiving or before, and that holiday seemed invite a lot of unusual events.

But there are little things that startle me into a brief confusion over her absence.

Like when I hear an ambulance siren in the middle of the night from outside my bedroom window.  I am suddenly in that ambulance barreling my mother to her death, furious at the EMT who won't let me sit with her and staring into the empty, dark streets and then realizing that siren I hear is from the ambulance I'm sitting in.

When I understood that no one would ever hold my hand the way she did.

Or that moment on the F train.

And just the other day, I tied my scarf around my neck like she did and for a second I felt all the millions of time she rakishly made her scarves dashing and daring, with hopes that love would invite her into her hopes and dreams.

I often feel I should be mourning Florence's death the way I often felt I should fall in love with whoever gave me a Valentine's Day card.  There was just all this TV expectation that rose up. 

But that's not what happened.  The day would arrive and I would have to remember what day it was exactly and ....

No.  That's not what happened or happens.  What I grieve is that the woman I became after her death was much more capable of loving her that the child I was before she died.  I could have really loved my mother in a way that truly reached her.

And for that I grieve.

Now reaching mid-way through my fifth decade, I've been to enough memorials to know that at some point, someone will say, "his or her spirit lives on in us" and then something about how we should go out and live as he or she did. 

But, I don't know if anyone really does that.

Tonight, glancing back over my shoulder at the last couple of months and maybe even the last year, though, I realized I had been living as Florence did.  A ferocious attack on each day to bring forth the fullest expression of life, from dragging myself early in the morning to the pen and page, to storming up avenues to get to where I have to go.  I even swim at the same pool she did.

There is an unshakeable determination that I will not let age or despair thwart me.

That is truly reciting Yizkor for my mother. 


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Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Bedtime Story


Dana and Trudy are best friends. 

This is them when they were only 88 years old.


They're both a bit older now.

Just the other day, Trudy came down to New York for a visit and Dana wanted to get out of the house.  So they somehow made their way to Union Square.

They were sitting in the sun enjoying the day and each other's company, minding their own business, when a very posh lady, with a TV crew trailing behind her approached them.

Could she interview them for a television show she was hosting?

I think it was Dana who shrugged 'why not', since Trudy was a bit more shy.

"What did you do with your husbands that was 'hot'?" the TV host asked them.

Trudy was aghast, but Dana didn't miss a beat.

"Well!  We turned off the lights!"

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Sunday, September 28, 2014

Francisco's Sunday Memories In His New York With An Addendum Of Grace


This is Francisco.


He is from Brazil.

Unlike our other meetings this one was planned.

Still, everything was just as surprising as that first meeting one day in 2011 running past him as he took a picture of a doorway.

And everything else was just as unexpected as that second meeting in 2013, when tearing around a corner, late as usual, I almost crashed into him standing there with his daughter and her son.

Now, in  2014, we would visit at a dinner table, not a corner.

The Mariner asked, "What was your trade?"

"A diplomat."

And in unrushed time set aside, the story of Francisco's New York and all the other cities and countries he had traveled to, unfolded.  Dozens of places around the world, two daughters, decades long career.

Still,  where he returns, every year, once a year, is New York.

Sometimes alone, sometimes with family, but always here.

The memories of an 18 year old boy in 1947, leaving his country, disembarking a ship, stepping out of a cab, coming into his own...

...recounted in tender steps down old streets and, tonight, in words to new friends.

A MORNING AFTER ADDENDUM:

There are many things about Francisco that make New York this New York.

But, after weeks of long hours and a spectacular meal, an attempt late last night to describe that experience, even in a sweep of calligraphy, fell short.

The morning's "discussion" with the Mariner about transformation led to the challenge of describing the constant intersection between taking unfamiliar or uncomfortable action, and that all confusing term, "letting go" which sometimes means remembering that your lungs breathe in and breathe out without you yelling at them. 

Here are some moments, some reflections on unfamiliar, uncomfortable action and letting my lungs do their job:

In 2011, I was running down the street to an appointment.

Rarely stopping when late, I stopped.
Rarely engaging and asking questions, I asked.
Rarely requesting a formal portrait since taking pictures surreptitiously was a habit, I requested.



In 2013, I was, as usual, again, running down the street late.

There was Francisco, with his daughter and grandson.



At the exact intersection of the perfect second and the next moment.  If I had been later or earlier by even a minute, I would have never seen him again. 

It may have been unusual for me or for anyone.  But at dinner last night, he told story after story of that moment and the moment before, and the moment before that and the...

These moments were part of a long line of moments Francisco had in this city.  He took a step and a breath and  behold it became His New York, from the moment he stepped out of a taxi at Union Square to the moment I stopped him years ago and asked to take his picture.

That happens to him all the time.  It has always been that way, his daughter told me. 

There must be a grace that guides him, I said. 

Perhaps that is all it is:  when unfamiliar or uncomfortable effort meets breathing that doesn't need a memo of understanding, Grace unfolds.

Seeking Florence's New York, or the New York of my family, my friends, my neighbors, my city, I often just take a walk, breathing in, breathing out, just watching.  And sometimes, I meet Francisco.

Now, we are all wondering this:  when he was released from Ellis Island and put in a taxi and taken arbitrarily to Union Square and stepped out of that taxi and ran into his former co-worker and asked about a place to stay, the friend took him back to his apartment that he shared with his father.   It was on Second Avenue.

Do you remember where, I asked Francisco.

No.  But it had an elevator.   And a cinema was right across the street.  And the friend then took him around the corner to the rooming house where he settled in and began his adventure into his life.

That building which I found him in front of in 2011 is right around the corner from my apartment.

There are only three buildings on Second Avenue and that street that have elevators, mine being one of them.

We all are across the street from the cinema.

Could it be the first place Francisco visited was the place I have lived in for almost forty years?

This was His New York, Her New York and now Our New York.
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Friday, September 26, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving
And Needs Some Food


GOT KIBBLES?



HELP FEED SOCIAL TEES' 
SUPER ADORABLE ANIMALS!!!

The cupboards are looking bare, and Social Tees need to restock its dry and wet food supplies for both dogs and cats. 
 
Social Tees enthusiastically welcome - OK.... BEGS!!!! -  for material donations at the storefront - rescue center on 5th Street  during regular hours so you can be thanked in person... and maybe even decide to adopt or foster a puppy or those fabulous cats hanging around.
 
If you can't stop in but want to contribute, please consider making a donation to Social Tees' Amazon Wish List here: http://amzn.com/w/WY8BHUIGRAAO
 
Social Tees really, really need some food for these hungry guys!  There are so many animals at the shelter and in foster homes and they all need solid nutrition.
 
Also always needed are other supplies like dog harnesses and leashes, cleaning products, pet carriers, litter boxes... gently USED is absolutely fine!! 
 
Email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you have any questions, and THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!



SET ME FREE!!!!
COME ON AND RESCUE ME!!!!


This little baby and her mama, just rescued last night, are still stuck in a cage AND THEY NEED A FOSTER HOME!!!!!!
 
Both are sweet and friendly.  Mom is 12 lbs and baby is 5 lbs. 

Email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you can help!!!


When you give 

Goldie and Jupiter, both rescue cats, take a meeting

you get back 
a billion times more

NEVER a dull moment

Constant yoga work-outs for the heart and any patience needing strengthening

Losing track of time playing fetch/catch with wool balls

Unexpected bursts of laughing that threaten embarrassing results but often no one is around to notice

Love that doesn't require couple's therapy or diaper changing

A reminder to rest in the sun and enjoy.



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Thursday, September 25, 2014

My Time Of Day....

Florence's favorite song from "Guys and Dolls" was My Time Of Day.

And rather than sing Louise to sleep with "Rock-A-bye-Baby" this song became her lullaby.


My time of day is the dark time
A couple of deals before dawn
When the street belongs to the cop
And the janitor with the mop
And the grocery clerks are all gone.

When the smell of the rainwashed pavement
Comes up clean, and fresh, and cold
And the streetlamp light
Fills the gutter with gold

That's my time of day
My time of day

And you're the only doll I've ever wanted to share it with me





















 

 





































Tuesday, September 23, 2014

On A Clear Day Her New York
Marches To Save Forever

The March was Sunday.  The Climate Change Summit is today.  Revolution is always.


An unending sea of people kept pouring onto the 8thAvenue IND platform.


And every train pulling into the station was already crammed full of other seas of other people from other places. 

We were fed up and we were not going to take it any more.

Children on mothers' shoulders and ...


... fathers on crutches.

And these environmental scientists who had flown over other seas to be here.



The sky filled with steel birds.


And silk ones...


and a few real ones, usually considered pests, but today reminding us to speak for them and their brethren.



So we did.




Obviously a very pissed off New Yorker.

It was all very powerful and all very exciting.

To be together.

To fight together.

To stand as one.

And in a moment called for silence, to raise our hands in protest.


And then to raise our voices in rage and defiance.


and pray in protest.


It was all very powerful and all very exciting.  And very, very loud.  Except, of course, those praying in protest.

But revolution always start with a single and determined step, and sometimes it is taken alone. 



She must have been in her eighties.

She was by herself.

It took her almost 10 minutes to climb the stairs out of the subway, the sea of people pouring around her, but she didn't stop.

She would take a step, then rested, then another, then rested, then...

When she got to the top of the stairs, she pushed aside the barricades set up to keep us orderly and crossed the street to the front of the march.

It was Her New York.

And she was marching to make sure it stayed that way.

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Birds' picture: Ted Krever



Sunday, September 21, 2014

Sunday Memories: Yearning For The Sea


Wandering on little walking paths around ancient bungalows and sandy beaches, I wondered what Florence had felt, a young woman on her honeymoon.

Here she was, in a place as different from Bushwick or Knickerbocker Village as the moon was from the earth.  Married to a person as different from her secret lover as the ocean was to a desert. 

How miserable she must have been, loving someone, but like this mermaid, far from where she belonged.  

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Friday, September 19, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving And So Beautiful Your Heart Melts Into Your Socks

 GOTTA DANCE TO ANOTHER
SUCCESS STORY!!!


Once upon a time this way-too-cool cat was adopted two years ago as a tiny kitten named Jaws because he had a funny shaped lower lip. 

Now he's Yango, as gorgeous as can be (his lip is still a little funny, but you can't tell from this picture), and he has a very adorable doggy best friend. 

His mom says: "Yango has grown from being a cute little confused but curious kitten to a handsome, unusually long and very intelligent cat, whose favorite activities include annoying his canine brother Spuddy (mostly by making him jealous with his cuteness), meowing, stretching out, lying on top of everything (including Macbooks, phones, and humans), kneading, sticking his butt on things, and making us laugh. 

He has been such a loving addition to our family, and he really deserves to be called the 'best cat ever.' He amazes us with his character and actions everyday, and we have all learned a lot from being with him. 

My significant other is a dancer, and he even often seeks inspiration from Yango's movements! Yango is also a bit of an artist, as he likes to paw at markers and pencils when we draw, and by doing this he once sketched out his own scribble that actually looked pretty good (definitely MoMa-worthy). We are forever grateful to have found each other!"


IF YOU ADOPT THIS GIRL, 
CHRISTMAS WILL COME EARLY


This adorable fluffster is Princess, a seven-year old blind Shih Tzu mix, only 9 pounds. 

She is yet another one of those very poorly cared for animals whose magical, ever trusting spirit burns bright. 

Princess is very low key and a little slow moving, friendly with everyone and loves affection. Just needs a little guidance during walks. 

Her foster mom says: "This pretty girl is super sweet! She’s friendly with everyone she meets, despite not being able to see them. She’s very mellow and quiet. She’s good with other dogs and ignores cats. 

She is comfortable around the house, and knows to do her business outside. We have started taking walks on a leash, and although she is slow now, I expect her to get more comfortable with time and consistency. She can be fearful of new situations, but never barks or complains. Even though she needs some extra guidance, it has been so rewarding watching her blossom!”

A POCKET FULL OF PUPPIES!!!


These three amigos and their friends need foster homes ASAP!! 

They are chihuahua pups, 9 weeks old and super sweet and adorable! Fostering will last about 2 weeks.   Please email if you can help out!!!

Dimitra@socialteesnyc.org


 There's a reason Friday's Child
is now a part of Her New York




if only to say thank you.



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Thursday, September 18, 2014

And Just Around The OTHER Corner....


It was time to say goodbye to a place that looked nothing like New York, not even Coney, but which felt like home and history in little, odd ways.

One last walk on the beach, we said. 

Of course, the last day was sunny and hot and perfect for swimming and all our stuff was packed up in the car trunk.

The walk took the time it took.  And besides, there were little bungalows with "For Rent" signs we had to investigate.  Still, at some point we knew we had to head home.

Not sure why neither of us heard the phone ring, but the Mariner's mother was trying to reach him.   Then the signal died, then we had to drive a little bit away from the beach then I got a signal on my phone then we called her back then Ted pulled over so he could talk and not drive at the same time and ... it was nothing... just making plans...

In the middle of all that, the man whose house we stopped in front of came out.

"Anything wrong?" which in New York meant "GET THE FUCK OFF MY...."

"Sorry, sorry, just had to call his mother back."

"Ok! Just checking...." which, if he was speaking New York meant, "Ok Just making sure you know you have to GET THE FUCK OFF..."

But, it didn't feel like he was speaking anything except, "OK.  Just checking..."

The gift of blarney inherited from Florence could not be stopped.

"You have a beautiful neighborhood...." and before you know it...

Mr. Chris was inviting us to check out all the seriously cool repairs he was doing to his rental property which was deceptively big inside and filled with wonderful things that had their own stories....


...and it reminded me how so often all of us living in that old, cranky building would drag one another through "show&tell", pointing out the clever solution to a weird corner or a constant leak, or what treasure had been found on the street, down the hallway, from a friend and maybe even bought in a store. 

But it was even more than that. 

Mr. Chris, not knowing us from Adam, had invited us in just like each one of us had invited in strangers, sometimes stranded in New York, or a friend of a friend of a... or, having just survived a mugging which took her keys, needed a place to rest until her roommates woke up or....

Just because the Mariner's mom called
Just because that little patch of land had terrible cell phone connection
Just because I got a signal and could get through
Just because that was the corner nearest to pull over to...
Just because...

We got welcomed into a stranger's home, got to see all the clever solutions to a weird corner or a constant leak, learned how something so beautiful and rare came to sit on that table, how that table got here, and then all the wonderful stories of his relatives in Brooklyn, especially the one who became a real estate emperor from just one little hotdog pushcart, and the wife with the gold tooth and the finished basement with the full bar and....

...sometimes the world is just one big moment of perfect timing

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Tuesday, September 16, 2014

And Just Around The Corner
Was Her New York


As a friend exclaimed when I told her we were going on vacation, it must be 'tru luv' if I was willing to leave the city.

But leave we did, the Mariner happily behind the wheel of a car off to the land where Florence and Seymour may have visited on one of their long bike rides in early times of hope and love.

Rare days and sweet adventures were found on the wilds of empty beaches, sea-faring ducks and chipmunks that were cuter than any cartoon from the 1960s.


Yet,  in a restaurant at the furthest tip of land, sitting right next to us was another story of New York, immediately recognized in soft vowels that could have only been inherited from a familiar diaspora.

Born in Doctor's Hospital up on York Avenue in the 80's. Parents raised in New York to immigrants that came from the same places my grandparent had fled.  Grew up somewhere in Long Island, and then like so many, fled to the other coast that looked nothing like where he came from. 

However, the real story wasn't told in school records, house deeds, marriage certificates, or vacation plans.

When he was a teenage boy, like a lot of teenage boys, he was kinda interested in boxing.

Oh yeah? said his mom.  You know, your real grandfather was a boxer.  No, not the guy married to Grandma.  Your real one.   The Young Willie Jackson, a formidable boxer of his day.

His grandmother had divorced Willie.  While pregnant.  That was such a daring and outrageous thing for a woman to do in those days, she was called "infamous' in the papers.  But she did, and she married someone else who raised his mom and who he called Grandpa.

That didn't stop him from rushing down the very next day to the New York State Boxing Commission and talk his way into the Commissioner's office.  His grandfather's life came alive in clippings and stories and a rare photo.  It was a piece of home, as recognizable to him as his accent had been to me.

Each of us live with family secrets revealed and others suspected.  Some of us write stories.  Others take pictures. 

Young Willie Jackson's grandson gave himself a portrait.  A tattoo by his heart of his grandfather standing proud, fists posed and ready to go.



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It Was Our New York