Tuesday, October 21, 2014

A Fearless And Moral Inventory


the black Mare ankle boots the shoemaker on 10th Street sold me in 1980something because no one ever picked them up

the black Otto Tootsi Plohound boots the roommate gave me in 1990somethingthat were cut to mid-calf

the black kitten heel, pointy toe knee-high leather boots bought new in Martinez, Argentina 2000something glimpsed from a moving train, spotting the exact pair wanted, figuring out how to use the Spanish-speaking ticket machine and getting to Martinez on my own and buying a new pair of boots for the first time in decades for about the same the Mare cost 20 years earlier.

the black Timberlake quasi motorcycle boots, a bit too big, the neighbor gave me muchlatersomething

the two pairs of black waterproof, warm, winter La Canadianne boots bought on 14th Street-2-for-1 new  after destroying a pair of boots in the rain because an ex had bought them for me

the black pointy-pointy-pointy Italian leather $14.99 at Salvation Army before boycotting their stores because they gave so much money to anti-Gay actions

the black fake-leather knee high a friend gave me for work 

Not shown: 

the two pairs of black ankle boots kept at work, one from a thrift store some serious designer name that the guy wouldn't give me a break on the the price, and a pair from Italy bought at a street fair from this woman she just wasn't wearing them anymore but then running into me on the street the following week, saying she regretting selling them to me for $10 she should have given them another shot

and the brown pair of Adams Boots that are kinda motorcycle or cowboy boots with a buckle and they're the only brown boots I got.

Its clear that there is no possible reason, ever, until all these boots fall apart, that I need another pair ever.  

Unless of course, someone has a pair they're getting rid of or there's a sale.  Or they're red.

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Saturday, October 18, 2014

Sunday Memories: In The Still, Night Travels

3 a.m. at the airport


It is my favorite time no matter where I am.

Everything empties and brief moments suddenly stand alone.  There's enough space to see a possible future.

When moving into my apartment almost forty years ago it was at night, while roommates slept, that I would wander through the apartment and attempt to scrub it clean, fix its tatterness tidy it up.

Wishful thinking that when I woke up late for work the apartment might have metamorphosed into a home I kept seeing in a magazine or in a TV commercial.   I was always too tired to be disappointed.

But even if morning was disappointing, those night hours weren't.  There was space to dream.  There was quiet to hear my heart.  The world was infinite and I could go anywhere I wanted.


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Friday, October 17, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving And FREED!!!!!! And Free too!


JAILBREAK IN THE EAST VILLAGE!!!!

Photo: THERE'S BEEN A JAILBREAK IN THE EAST VILLAGE!!!!
Daisy, the diabetic dogs that was sadly stuck in her cage for months at the vet, has finally gotten a chance at a foster home. Wooooo!!!!!! A huge THANK YOU to her amazing new foster mom for picking her up and welcoming her into her heart and home yesterday. (You can follow their adventures on Instagram via @ahomebtwnhomes.) Now let's find her forever family!!!! She's 8 years old, 15 lbs, a fluffily little Shih Tzu terrier mix, and very lovely. Email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you have questions!

Daisy, the diabetic dog highlighted in last week's Friday's Child had been sadly stuck in her cage for months at the vet.  BUT SHE'S NOW FREED AND IN A FOSTER HOME!!!

A huge THANK YOU to her amazing new foster mom for picking her up and welcoming her into her heart and home yesterday.

You can follow their adventures on Instagram via @ahomebtwnhomes.

Now let's find her forever family!!!! She's 8 years old, 15 lbs, a fluffy little Shih Tzu terrier mix, and very lovely.

Email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you have questions!

"IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE SET THEM FREE" - Sting




Sleepy puppies Ginseng and Gia need a foster home ASAP!

These little girls are only 12 weeks old, 4 lbs each, very sweet and playful.

Pickup is at Social Tees, fostering lasts 2 to 4 weeks tops, email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you can help!!!



THE GREATNESS OF A NATION CAN BE JUDGED BY THE WAY ITS ANIMALS ARE TREATED



SOCIAL TEES IS LAUNCHING A NEW FACEBOOK PAGE TO HIGHLIGHT PLIGHT OF ABUSED ANIMALS.  

IT'S CALLED SAVING LOTUS!!!

Lots of kittens, puppies, cats and dogs get abused - that's not just a word.  That's beatings, cigarettes burns, being kicked, not being given food, water, or shelter.  DAILY.

That word is a world that a lot of animals live in.  And Social Tees and other rescue groups go out, find these animals and bring them back into a different word and thus a different world.  Be part of it.  Click on the facebook link SAVING LOTUS and join in.

Meet Lotus



This is her looking a BILLION times better than when Social Tees took her off the kill-list and brought her to help.

Social Tees says:

Through this page, we plan to share the story of Lotus and we invite you to please follow along and help this abused dog heal.  Our goals are to raise awareness about and prevent animal abuse and neglect; to find out who did this to Lotus; to build a loving community around this dog; and to share her strides and progress as she experiences the kindness she never had and grows into the dog she was meant to be.

Lotus was found tied to a fire hydrant in the Bronx three weeks ago and taken to Animal Care & Control, but she was emotionally abandoned long before that by the severely neglectful owner who allowed her to literally waste away for years. Ironically, she was set free when she was left tied to that fire hydrant. That was the moment when her new life began.

We rescued Lotus shortly after she landed at the kill shelter (Animal Car & Control) in Harlem. Despite how hard we knew it would be to pull her through, we couldn’t bare to leave her there when we saw her cowering in her cage. Unbelievably, we were not allowed take her immediately, however, because Animal Care & Control protocol dictated that they were obligated to hold her for three days in case her owner showed up looking for her…
We live in an extremely backward world if the person who did this to her would have been permitted to take her back had he or she come to claim ownership. 

When she was released from stray hold, we rushed over, scooped her up, and got her to a holistic veterinary specialist and our veterinarian with the help of a very compassionate animal-loving officer next door at the 9th Precinct. She was emaciated, most of her fur had fallen out, and her nails were so long that they curled in spirals under her toes, some stabbing the flesh of her pads and ankles. Her bones stuck out in ridges along her ribs, and her head felt like a skull covered in a thin layer of crusty leather. All of her skin was raw, moist, red, inflamed, hot, and stank of sourness and rotting flesh. Thick deep scabs covered her back, chest, and legs like fossilized slugs embedded on a wilted stem. The scabs that clung to her face above her nose pushed what little fur she had left there into her eyes, poking her fragile, irritated corneas. Her ears were full of a yellow crumbly buildup that fell like putrid sleet when she shook her head. Her legs wobbled and shook when she tried to walk because she had so little muscle strength. Though it was clear she wanted affection, she was in so much pain that she would wince at the gentlest touch. Miraculously, she still has so much faith in humans despite what she’s been through.

We have held off on sharing her story until we knew she was in the clear, and now is the time to introduce you to this truly special soul. 

This picture was taken when we first rescued her. Just wait until we post the next pics!! She’s had her matted scabby fur trimmed off, and she’s been bathed daily with soothing, medicated cleanser. Her nails were clipped, and she can walk without pain for the first time in years. Her eyes and ears are clearing up and no longer itch and burn. Her foul smell is fading away, and the first traces of fresh fur are beginning to grow back. She can now accept the physical affection she has so dearly needed — she adores being rubbed and scratched along her neck and all over her head, and she will cozy up into your lap on a blanket just happy to have human companionship.

Please join us as we watch her blossom!

Special thanks to Alan Perlman of Chey Dog Pet Photography for donating his time and energy to helping us document Lotus’s journey.

She's already been at the vet for a few weeks, so you can imagine what her medical bills might look like... If anyone wants to DONATE to help support her medical care, please do so here: http://socialteesnyc.org/donate/ THANK YOU IN ADVANCE!!!!



SOCIAL TEES IN THE EAST VILLAGE!!!


Come Volunteer!!!

Come Visit!!!!

 Come On In!!!!!


 Social Tees 
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003  
socialteesnyc.org 
www.facebook.com/SocialTeesAnimalRescue

Thursday, October 16, 2014

The Metaphor



There's this old slogan about the hallway.  Well, it's more about doors opening and closing.

When one door closes another opens.

But this is where the hallway comes in.  Sometimes we have to wait there before that other door opens.

There's really nothing to while you're stuck but ask for guidance of how to get to where you are going and how to sit while you wait.


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Monday, October 13, 2014

Turn Around Bright Eye



The building is kinda impressive.  Lots of people take pictures of it as if to say Here I Am In New York.  I've taken pictures of the building, but mostly at night when it becomes a mirrored disco ball of all the buildings around it.  It's very pretty at night.

But no matter what time of day it is the river is always beautiful.  It is a living painting.  It sings lieder and poems in the spring and heavy metal when it rains and Motown whenever it damn feels like it and while the guy was taking a picture of a lot of glass and concrete he missed out on what really was happening.

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Sunday, October 12, 2014

Sunday Memories of Chol Ha'Moed

Sukkots in Brooklyn
photo by Saskia Scheffer
It's Sukkot.  I always pronounced it Succhos. It's the festival for harvesting.

When the perfect wind started singing perfect songs about Autumn in New York, little huts would pop up all over the lower east side and that was normal. Just like going back to school.

Everybody ate in it, mostly by themselves a lot but sometimes with others.  Every once in a while I'd down to the quartchyard and slip into this dining room with the plastic table clothes and the wooden walls and the see-through roof and decorations that could have said Happy Sukkot, as if it were a birthday party.  But, as the 'not-quite-right' Jews, I never hung around long.  I was not welcomed unless of course Cindy or B. were around.

Still, I really never registered the rejection.  I just recognized home being dotted with these buildings, even outside of restaurants.

It was years later that a relative explained that our family name, Moed, was from this very time.

A great-great-great-great-great-great...  ok a very long ago grandfather was a learned rabbi.   And he studied something called Sukkot Chol HaMoed  (the days of the festival).  One day the Czar told all those who didn't believe in last names (the Jews) they had to have last names so that it would be easier to count us and then tax us.  So he sent his representatives to go into the ghettos and shtetl's to write everything down.

Mostly everyone picked a last name that was the word of their job: butcher, baker, or tailor.  When it was my many-great-grandfather's turn, the Czar-guy asked him, "What do you do?"

"I study Sukkot Chol HaMoed," he answered.

I don't know why we didn't become Sukkot. Or Chol.  Or even Ha.

No. We became Moed.

And I shoulda held my ground in those sukkots I wasn't always welcomed in. 

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Friday, October 10, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving
And It's A New Year


IF IT'S FRIDAY,
IT'S FRIDAY'S CHILD!

Why, you might ask, does a blog that explores New York's disappearing landscape, family and home,
write about cats and dogs up for adoption?

Why indeed. 

Meet Jupiter.



Click here to find out.

Meanwhile, at Social Tees,  cats and dogs, kittens and puppies are just waiting to show you what real love is all about 
Just like one kitten did to me not so long ago.
 
BLISS OUT!!!!



CAN YOU BELIEVE BLISS 
THE PUPPY IS STILL UP FOR ADOPTION?

Take her home already!! Bliss is a Maltese/Jack Russell mix, 10 weeks, too adorable to even try to describe.  Interested in adding her to your family?

Complete an application at socialteesnyc.org!!


But not all puppies 
are cute and happy.  

This one needs your help


Photo: THIS DOG IS IN TRULY DESPERATE NEED OF COMPASSION
Daisy is about 8 years old, 16 lbs, and she is diabetic. She has a golden soul but has been stuck in this cage at the vet for over month because nobody will foster her... We are begging you now for help with this sweet dog. She is great with other animals and very affectionate, but she's become completely miserable in this metal prison. The veterinary staff tending to her has been more than wonderful, but despite their kindness and support, she has sunken into a sad place -- a cage is no way of life for a dog just because she has diabetes. PLEASE, PLEASE help us get this girl out of there!!! She needs a specific diet and daily insulin shots. She would do best in a home with someone who has diabetic dog experience or serious  patience and willingness to learn. We will provide her food and any medical materials needed and our veterinarian will provide any advice, guidelines, and information you need. Fostering starts as soon as humanly possible, please email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you can be this girl's angel. 

PLEASE SHARE TO GET THIS DOG OUT OF A CAGE!!!!

Daisy is about 8 years old, 16 lbs, and she is diabetic.  She is also great with other animals and very affectionate,

She has a golden soul but has been stuck in this cage at the vet for over a month because nobody will foster her... the veterinary staff tending to her has been more than wonderful, but despite their kindness and support, she has sunken into a sad place --she's become completely miserable.

She needs a specific diet and daily insulin shots. She would do best in a home with someone who has diabetic dog experience or serious patience and willingness to learn.  Social Tees will provide her food and any medical materials needed and our veterinarian will provide any advice, guidelines, and information you need. 


Social Tees is putting out a call tor help with this sweet dog.  So if you are reading this, help.  

Forward it to friends, post it on Facebook... make a call.... Maybe even think about fostering her yourself.

Fostering starts as soon as humanly possible. 
 
samantha@socialteesnyc.org



SOCIAL TEES IN THE EAST VILLAGE!!!


Come Volunteer!!!

Come Visit!!!!

 Come On In!!!!!


 Social Tees 
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003  
socialteesnyc.org 
www.facebook.com/SocialTeesAnimalRescue

Thursday, October 9, 2014

Another Moment Of The Difference





It is just a 2-cup cup.

But 35 years ago, it was not.  It was a horrifying mistake.

I was working in someone's kitchen as someone's help and dropped the cup and chipped the handle.

In my world, nothing came from new.  You got whatever you needed or thought you might need from a friend or the sidewalk or a thrift store that, never in its wildest dreams, would ever become a consignment shop.

But, here, in another person's home, where clearly everything was much better than I owned, I had broken something not mine and that obviously didn't come from the street or a friend or a thrift store.  This lady bought new stuff.

The next day I went out and bought, new, a replacement 2-cup cup for my employer and took the old broken one home, wrapped up the chipped handle with black electrical tape and used it for the next three-plus decades.

Some time ago, moving things around, the cup fell onto the floor, chipping the sprout completely. off.

That broken cup lived on my desk for months.  I kept staring at the black electrical tape on the handle and the piece of broken glass sprout and wondered why, in all these years, I had never gotten a new one.  Money has not been as tight as when I worked as help, so it wasn't about affording it.  After all, I never thought twice about buying a cheap airline ticket to the possibility of being loved.

There are somethings that fall into that space of "you don't spend money on that." Which in Florence land was just about everything.  Except maybe airline tickets.

I still haven't bought a new one.  Well.  Maybe someone will give me their old one, or leave one out on the sidewalk or I'll find one in some thrift store that isn't interested in being anything except a place where people like me look for things they need.

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Tuesday, October 7, 2014

The Old Bag


Goldie, quite happy being in the bag

















Florence's satchel finally came down from high cupboards.  When you need a ladder to get to stuff, it's easy to forget a person's life is packed away up there.

This bag is archaic compared to how travel is done these days.  No wheels.  No shoulder strap.  No knapsack.  Just a satchel.  Used briefly in later years to cross the East River or the Hudson for nights spent not in her bed.

When she was young, she hitchhiked up and down the eastern seaboard, well definitely to Washington D.C. or so she told me.  Just said to Sophie one day she was heading out and would be back soon.

Where those days less dangerous, or did young girls just say less?

And, in early marriage, she and my father biked long and hard all over the place, definitely to Philadelphia.

But her first plane ride was when she was way past 60.

And she never left the country.  Not even to Canada.  Just San Francisco and North Carolina.  And during a turbulent reunion with her first love, to New Rochelle.  This was one of the bags she carried.

The need to stay home greater than any curiosity about other places, the old satchel eventually got put to use doing other things.

Like secreting away papers and pictures and letters and magazines and scraps of paper and hidden thoughts that were a full portrait of her life, her goals, her daily duties as an artist.  Even if no one else knew about it.

I look at a lot of catalogs these days, an old habit left over from my childhood love for Sears & Roebuck's .   So many of these glossies aren't selling me functional Keds.  Instead, they are selling the look of a life well lived.
 
And so much of it looks like how Florence lived.

She may not have traveled to a lot a places, but she went far.

And she had a great bag.

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A Labor Of Love

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Sunday, October 5, 2014

Sunday Memories Of New Years To Come

Stuck with an old fashion cold, a favorite encore to begin the New Year right.

Originally posted Tuesday, October 7, 2008



I go to Little Gdynia to meet Doc for a meal.

Faye is there with her grandson. Her husband, Leslie is now gone a year at least. That means she'll be able to say kaddish at the services next week for him. All I see is that day he boasted how she was the smartest math teacher in the world as she gently put his arm into his jacket. They both survived the war and the camps but met each other here in New York when they came to start a new life, a new year.

Faye is now drained, her eyes watery. She may be facing 90 but she can't quite see it. Her grandson talks animatedly to her, like he is trying to live six lives for her so she isn't so damn lonely dieing without the man she loves.

I go over to say Good Yontiv. The grandson tells me he now is in Los Angeles. No, not the TV business. His girlfriend got into rabbinical school. Thank G-d, I say. Faye beams.

Five men yell and laugh in the back. The Right this, the Left that, Stalinism and....

Doc skips in. Pierogis and kielbasi and little cups of soup. Sour cream, sauteed onions, I have a chocolate egg cream. Talk pours out faster than delicious rain from another season, mothers and lovers and hopes and grief and hunger and peace and dreams. Desire.

For a new year for a new year for a new year.

The men all laugh and voices rise into chords from a Schoenberg symphony. Suddenly a glass breaks on the tile floor.

"Mazel Tov!" we shout to them.

"What!? Now you're married!?" one shouts back.

"No! You're married." we retort.

Faye's grandson is waving to me from the door. I jump up, a kiss on Faye's cheek. She says, pointing to him, kvelling like crazy, "This is my grandson." I don't say I know you told me. I just grin a billion smiles for her so maybe the joy evaporates her permanent tears. I feel my own eyes soften with age each second.

Doc makes me laugh just when I'm swallowing mushroom barley. We talk about all the meals we ate on Yom Kippur. I win. Two years ago from the 35th Street Chinese bakery a pork bun for breakfast before I realized I was eating tref on the holiest of the holies. She's runner up because she made dinner reservations this year for right after the fasting begins.

Since it's between Rosh Hoshanna and Yom Kippur, we don't count the kielbasi.

The men, windbreakser, comfy shoes, relaxed pants, those faces we know in our fathers our uncles our neighbors our lives.

One says, "you sure we're not married?"

"You are," we say. "But to him..." pointing to his old friend.

"Oy! him!?"

"What? You thought you were going to be happy?"

"Wasn't the first two times...."

"Good night, girls," they call to us, leaving with little bags of dessert or dinner.

"Good night, Good Yontiv, shona tova, a happy new year..."

A new year a new year a new year...

Friday, October 3, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving
And Ready To Make Home A Home


IF IT'S FRIDAY, 
IT'S FRIDAY'S CHILD!

Why, you might ask, does a blog that explores New York's disappearing landscape, family and home, 
write about cats and dogs up for adoption?


Why indeed. 
Meet Jupiter.

  


Click here to find out.


Meanwhile, at Social Tees 

 cats and dogs, 

kittens and puppies

are just waiting to show you  
what real love is all about 
Just like one kitten did to me 
not so long ago.
 
GOING HOME!!!!


Captain, 10 weeks old just got adopted!!!

 WANTS TO GO HOME!!!!


Harley, a sweet-as-peaches southern belle, just arrived in the big city and is ready for her closeup. This girl is 4 years old, 23 lbs, and has a very friendly and mellow disposition. She's great with other dogs and cats and such a little love bug, friendly with all people. She is fully housebroken and has great manners, too! Adores playing tug of war an even enjoys bath time. 

Interested in adopting? Complete an application at www.socialteesnyc.org!

READY TO GO HOME!!!



PLEASE HELP THIS SPECIAL SENIOR IN LOS ANGELES!!!


Social Tees team landed in Los Angeles Tuesday and met this hearbreakingly gentle soul at the kill shelter.  
Bubbles was scheduled to be put to sleep yesterday morning, but they got her out of there and are now on a mission to let her live the rest of her days in the comfort she deserves. 
She is a 12-pound beagle mix, was adopted out as a puppy 12 years ago from the very same shelter.  She is 13 years old now and was dumped because her owner had no time for her and neighbors were complaining she was left lying outside alone for 12 hours a day. 
It is too sad to imagine that once-loved pets are left to languish and then abandoned to die in such a traumatic way just because they have gotten old. Social Tees is now working on GIVING THIS GIRL THE EXTRA SPECIAL CARE she should have been getting all along. 
They need to get her geriatric veterinary care including blood work and a full dental, and they need a place for her to stay! They are hoping to place her in a forever home in the Los Angeles area asap, but will fly her back to NYC when they leave if they haven't found just the right spot for her.

PLEASE HELP contribute to her care via  their fundraiser here https://fundrazr.com/campaigns/asRrf/ab/615Sw0? and please email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you are in the LA area and can foster or want to adopt Bubbles.

ALREADY HOME!!!


A bit over a year ago we got Goldie from Social Tees.  And life got getter.

THANK YOU SOCIAL TEES!!!


DON'T YOU LOVE


THESE FABULOUS PHOTOS???

Visit Alan's dog photography collection at www.cheydogphotography.com and/or shoot him an email at alan@cheydogphotography.com. He'd be psyched to hear form you!



SOCIAL TEES IN THE EAST VILLAGE!!!


Come Volunteer!!!

Come Visit!!!!

 Come On In!!!!!


 Social Tees 
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003  
socialteesnyc.org 
www.facebook.com/SocialTeesAnimalRescue

Thursday, October 2, 2014

Yizkor (Remember) For Florence


Florence


 It's hard to keep track exactly when she died.

First day of Rosh Hoshonah for sure but every year that date changes.

September 30th.

But sometimes I think no it was October 1st because that's when I finally wrote everything down.

I don't miss her every day.  When her birthday comes around I remember it because it's right after Thanksgiving or before, and that holiday seemed invite a lot of unusual events.

But there are little things that startle me into a brief confusion over her absence.

Like when I hear an ambulance siren in the middle of the night from outside my bedroom window.  I am suddenly in that ambulance barreling my mother to her death, furious at the EMT who won't let me sit with her and staring into the empty, dark streets and then realizing that siren I hear is from the ambulance I'm sitting in.

When I understood that no one would ever hold my hand the way she did.

Or that moment on the F train.

And just the other day, I tied my scarf around my neck like she did and for a second I felt all the millions of time she rakishly made her scarves dashing and daring, with hopes that love would invite her into her hopes and dreams.

I often feel I should be mourning Florence's death the way I often felt I should fall in love with whoever gave me a Valentine's Day card.  There was just all this TV expectation that rose up. 

But that's not what happened.  The day would arrive and I would have to remember what day it was exactly and ....

No.  That's not what happened or happens.  What I grieve is that the woman I became after her death was much more capable of loving her that the child I was before she died.  I could have really loved my mother in a way that truly reached her.

And for that I grieve.

Now reaching mid-way through my fifth decade, I've been to enough memorials to know that at some point, someone will say, "his or her spirit lives on in us" and then something about how we should go out and live as he or she did. 

But, I don't know if anyone really does that.

Tonight, glancing back over my shoulder at the last couple of months and maybe even the last year, though, I realized I had been living as Florence did.  A ferocious attack on each day to bring forth the fullest expression of life, from dragging myself early in the morning to the pen and page, to storming up avenues to get to where I have to go.  I even swim at the same pool she did.

There is an unshakeable determination that I will not let age or despair thwart me.

That is truly reciting Yizkor for my mother. 


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Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Bedtime Story


Dana and Trudy are best friends. 

This is them when they were only 88 years old.


They're both a bit older now.

Just the other day, Trudy came down to New York for a visit and Dana wanted to get out of the house.  So they somehow made their way to Union Square.

They were sitting in the sun enjoying the day and each other's company, minding their own business, when a very posh lady, with a TV crew trailing behind her approached them.

Could she interview them for a television show she was hosting?

I think it was Dana who shrugged 'why not', since Trudy was a bit more shy.

"What did you do with your husbands that was 'hot'?" the TV host asked them.

Trudy was aghast, but Dana didn't miss a beat.

"Well!  We turned off the lights!"

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Sunday, September 28, 2014

Francisco's Sunday Memories In His New York With An Addendum Of Grace


This is Francisco.


He is from Brazil.

Unlike our other meetings this one was planned.

Still, everything was just as surprising as that first meeting one day in 2011 running past him as he took a picture of a doorway.

And everything else was just as unexpected as that second meeting in 2013, when tearing around a corner, late as usual, I almost crashed into him standing there with his daughter and her son.

Now, in  2014, we would visit at a dinner table, not a corner.

The Mariner asked, "What was your trade?"

"A diplomat."

And in unrushed time set aside, the story of Francisco's New York and all the other cities and countries he had traveled to, unfolded.  Dozens of places around the world, two daughters, decades long career.

Still,  where he returns, every year, once a year, is New York.

Sometimes alone, sometimes with family, but always here.

The memories of an 18 year old boy in 1947, leaving his country, disembarking a ship, stepping out of a cab, coming into his own...

...recounted in tender steps down old streets and, tonight, in words to new friends.

A MORNING AFTER ADDENDUM:

There are many things about Francisco that make New York this New York.

But, after weeks of long hours and a spectacular meal, an attempt late last night to describe that experience, even in a sweep of calligraphy, fell short.

The morning's "discussion" with the Mariner about transformation led to the challenge of describing the constant intersection between taking unfamiliar or uncomfortable action, and that all confusing term, "letting go" which sometimes means remembering that your lungs breathe in and breathe out without you yelling at them. 

Here are some moments, some reflections on unfamiliar, uncomfortable action and letting my lungs do their job:

In 2011, I was running down the street to an appointment.

Rarely stopping when late, I stopped.
Rarely engaging and asking questions, I asked.
Rarely requesting a formal portrait since taking pictures surreptitiously was a habit, I requested.



In 2013, I was, as usual, again, running down the street late.

There was Francisco, with his daughter and grandson.



At the exact intersection of the perfect second and the next moment.  If I had been later or earlier by even a minute, I would have never seen him again. 

It may have been unusual for me or for anyone.  But at dinner last night, he told story after story of that moment and the moment before, and the moment before that and the...

These moments were part of a long line of moments Francisco had in this city.  He took a step and a breath and  behold it became His New York, from the moment he stepped out of a taxi at Union Square to the moment I stopped him years ago and asked to take his picture.

That happens to him all the time.  It has always been that way, his daughter told me. 

There must be a grace that guides him, I said. 

Perhaps that is all it is:  when unfamiliar or uncomfortable effort meets breathing that doesn't need a memo of understanding, Grace unfolds.

Seeking Florence's New York, or the New York of my family, my friends, my neighbors, my city, I often just take a walk, breathing in, breathing out, just watching.  And sometimes, I meet Francisco.

Now, we are all wondering this:  when he was released from Ellis Island and put in a taxi and taken arbitrarily to Union Square and stepped out of that taxi and ran into his former co-worker and asked about a place to stay, the friend took him back to his apartment that he shared with his father.   It was on Second Avenue.

Do you remember where, I asked Francisco.

No.  But it had an elevator.   And a cinema was right across the street.  And the friend then took him around the corner to the rooming house where he settled in and began his adventure into his life.

That building which I found him in front of in 2011 is right around the corner from my apartment.

There are only three buildings on Second Avenue and that street that have elevators, mine being one of them.

We all are across the street from the cinema.

Could it be the first place Francisco visited was the place I have lived in for almost forty years?

This was His New York, Her New York and now Our New York.
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Friday, September 26, 2014

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving
And Needs Some Food


GOT KIBBLES?



HELP FEED SOCIAL TEES' 
SUPER ADORABLE ANIMALS!!!

The cupboards are looking bare, and Social Tees need to restock its dry and wet food supplies for both dogs and cats. 
 
Social Tees enthusiastically welcome - OK.... BEGS!!!! -  for material donations at the storefront - rescue center on 5th Street  during regular hours so you can be thanked in person... and maybe even decide to adopt or foster a puppy or those fabulous cats hanging around.
 
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Social Tees really, really need some food for these hungry guys!  There are so many animals at the shelter and in foster homes and they all need solid nutrition.
 
Also always needed are other supplies like dog harnesses and leashes, cleaning products, pet carriers, litter boxes... gently USED is absolutely fine!! 
 
Email samantha@socialteesnyc.org if you have any questions, and THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!!



SET ME FREE!!!!
COME ON AND RESCUE ME!!!!


This little baby and her mama, just rescued last night, are still stuck in a cage AND THEY NEED A FOSTER HOME!!!!!!
 
Both are sweet and friendly.  Mom is 12 lbs and baby is 5 lbs. 

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When you give 

Goldie and Jupiter, both rescue cats, take a meeting

you get back 
a billion times more

NEVER a dull moment

Constant yoga work-outs for the heart and any patience needing strengthening

Losing track of time playing fetch/catch with wool balls

Unexpected bursts of laughing that threaten embarrassing results but often no one is around to notice

Love that doesn't require couple's therapy or diaper changing

A reminder to rest in the sun and enjoy.



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Thursday, September 25, 2014

My Time Of Day....

Florence's favorite song from "Guys and Dolls" was My Time Of Day.

And rather than sing Louise to sleep with "Rock-A-bye-Baby" this song became her lullaby.


My time of day is the dark time
A couple of deals before dawn
When the street belongs to the cop
And the janitor with the mop
And the grocery clerks are all gone.

When the smell of the rainwashed pavement
Comes up clean, and fresh, and cold
And the streetlamp light
Fills the gutter with gold

That's my time of day
My time of day

And you're the only doll I've ever wanted to share it with me