Thursday, June 27, 2013

First In The Eyes Of God, Then In The Eyes Of New York And Now By The Law Of The Land!!!


The news flashed across phone screens and computers at 10:03am the ruling had been made and only seconds later everywhere we could celebrate, we did, in emails and posts, over cubicle walls and by office doors...

...and at some point,  in the women's bathroom stall, quietly weeping in joy for all those who now could, and in sorrow for all those who never got the chance.

But until new bridesmaids dresses are chosen and china patterns picked, an encore celebration for those who did!!!
 
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Originally posted Sunday, August 14, 2011

Doug and Shawn got married.



Friends asked if they could play music for the party.



We all couldn't stop hugging them...



and hugging them...



...and hugging them...



It was a celebration of what America was and could be.

For where else, Rev. Sparks asked us, could a Baptist preacher marry two Jewish men in a bar on the Lower East Side of New York.

And after they cut the cake....



...all that remained at the end of the night was love, honored by friends and family and now, finally, protected by the laws of the land. THEN in New York State.


AND NOW BY DECREE OF THE HIGHEST COURT IN THE LAND!!!!!!!

Thank you, Supreme Court!


Altar photo: Celeste McClain

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

Home Going


There is so little left that those moments surprise me, when glancing up or left or in this case right...

...suddenly stepping into old familiar letters,  the tiles that used to reflect all our faces, that staircase that had wrapped itself around us in hot, in cold, at night, or rushed mornings...

I'm home, back home, going home.


Sunday, June 23, 2013

Sunday Memories: A Room Of Her Own. With a Door!


In the 1970's it was the 'cat' room, along with boxes and stuff not being used by the three young men who sprawled through the rest of the house.  The cat didn't mind.  As long as he could get to his litter box.

Not sure what happened to the cat when everybody moved out and me and my friend moved in.  But the room was empty.  So we put in all our stuff that we weren't using as we sprawled through the rest of the house.

Those were the days where we each delivered our share of the rent to Mrs. Schneller, who lived on the 6th floor and rented out sheets and towels to the men living in the S.R.O.s.

Don't remember the ins-and-outs but one day that friend moved out and another moved in, bringing tables and lamps and posters and dishes and that room became a little dining room where morning cigarettes were smoked and post-party gossip shared.

And then it changed again, became the "guest" room, a bedroom with a loft bed brought from Brooklyn, resurrected as one apartment ended and our new relationship began.

Years, years, years, until life changed again, that new relationship no longer new, ending slowly into boxes that got packed up and shipped to unknown spaces waiting for a bedroom to be resurrected.

That room stayed behind, became a way station for an old friend needing a bed because he was too sick go home after work and then after him, friends also leaving relationships no longer new until...

...the room fell away, the wood packed away, walls painted, and a new roommate made it a fragile bedroom from another time filled with delicate fabrics and soft empty air.

And soon after that roommate began a new relationship in a new home, an old roommate moved back in.

Those many, many years that followed saw much change fly around that room, but the room didn't change much at all.

Home was, as it had been for the past 37 years, a myriad of footsteps and hellos and histories and stories, a constant array of memories sitting around the dinner table talking all at once.

Until.

One day became different.  The idea of home stretched beyond the small room and big shared space into a place where family could lived and friends might visit.  The room fell away for one last time and now it awaits, awaits me after all these years to sprawl beyond finite walls and fear into imagination born of solitude.

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Friday, June 21, 2013

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving: So There!


There's a reason Friday's Child is now a part 
of Her New York, if only to say thank you.
SOCIAL TEES SUCCESS STORY!
A TALE OF TWO BROTHERS!!!

 
Go ahead and ogle these two handsome brothers, Ulysses and Anubis.  
They were adopted separately in December and reunited recently during a puppy play date. 
Ulysses, in his new home, settled in immediately.  His favorite spot is by the window, where he people-watches for hours. He says hello to absolutely everyone he meets on the street, which has earned him the nickname “Mr. Mayor.” 
Anubis, named after the Egyptian god of mummies, adores taking dry mulch baths in the park and howling at ambulance and fire engine sirens. 
Funny story: One time, Anubis’s mom was walking down the street when a stranger chased her down... turns out the stranger was Ulysses’s mom, and she thought Ulysses had been dog-napped! It’s easy to see why. These two pups are definitely brothers! And what a cool coincidence that both ended up with ancient names!

Adopt a rescue pet, and YOU could be a future Social Tees Success Story! Check out some of the rest of adoptables here http://ow.ly/mblhA and email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com for an application.


FOSTER ME!
FOSTER ME!
I WANT TO FEEL YOU CLOSE TO ME!


SHELBY NEEDS A FOSTER / ADOPTION HOME !!!
This teddy bear of a yellow lab just arrived, and she's ridiculously friendly! 
She's an 8-year-old puppy-like rescue from Southampton, who is excellent with other dogs, cats, and kids.  About 60 pounds, she's currently at Social Tees in the East Village. 
Fostering would last a few weeks.  So if you can foster Shelby or if even adopt her, please call 917-612-4163. 
For an adoption application, please email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com. 
WHAT'S FOSTERING, YOU WONDER?!

Fostering lasts a few weeks, and Social Tees can provide supplies if you need them.  Fostering is SUPER important because it's much healthier for our animals to be in homes than in cages, and it expands our shelter virtually.

AND for every cat and dog that is placed in a foster home, Social Tees can pull another out of the kill shelter. So if you are an animal-lover with commitment issues, FOSTER!!!

For more info on fostering, email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or check out our FAQs here:


FOUR LITTLE KITTENS!

Buzz, Fuzz, Suzz and Agamemnon
Just like the kittens in that old children's book, these four little guys are up for anything!
They're also up for adoption! 

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Do you want to meet these guys and all the other great pups and kitties at Social Tees, but you're stuck at your desk during the week? Then come to the weekend events at Petco / Union Square!!

OR

If you have questions, answers, money? time? dry cat food?
Everything helps!

CONTACT SAMANTHA:
samantha.socialtees@gmail.com

Social Tees
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003;
5-7pm Monday to Friday
12-4pm  Saturday and Sunday at Petco at Union Square
212-614-9653;
socialteesnyc.org

Thursday, June 20, 2013

History Lessons



That dentist wall filled with scribbled details about different parts and certain moments...


...or the hospital basement packed with color-coded files describing the exact heartbeat of someone but not what made that heart pound....


... were not so much different than that cupboard storing all those journals and diaries overflowing with attempts to tell a secret wish.

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Tuesday, June 18, 2013

A Walk In The Park



I had been told, in the past, that I was not a walk in the park.

Perhaps, that was an accurate assessment, if  I were, in fact, like any 1970's self-respecting park of New York City that didn't tolerate just anybody trolloping about.  You had to earn passage through.  That, or be looking to buy some illegal drugs, which of course I did not sell.

The city aged.  Parks became, well,  places that were like a walk in the park.  Quiet, complacent, polite and receptive, welcoming everyone at almost any hour of the day or night.

I grew to enjoy strolling through quiet, polite and welcoming cement surrounded by green stuff.   And, like the city, I had aged and had less to say out loud, so perhaps I confused myself with such pleasant qualities. 

But, tonight strolling past benches that once offered respite after heartbreaking hospital visits with Florence, and marveling that the dangerous people lurking were outnumbered by joggers and lovers and teenagers and dogwalkers bouncing around, I heard myself saying something funny and sharp and not at all complacent.  Like the biting mosquitoes, a walk in the park shouldn't tolerate just anybody trolloping about.

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Sunday, June 16, 2013

Sunday Memories: "Be True To Your Teeth Or They Will Be False To You"


So sayeth my father.

So sayeth what we did every year.

For a family that rarely took vacations, almost always bought second-hand clothes, and never went out to dinner (unless it was chock-full-o'nuts or the annual Chinese food splurge), that trip to Dr. Lowenthal up in the Bronx or Washington Heights* - I just remember the long train ride taken with Florence, the buildings were shorter than New York's and there was more light - was money my parents never questioned spending.

The fear and discomfort of awful sounds and unpleasant probings were all balanced by the promise of a toy - one I could pick myself from a big box he kept near the chair of torture.  For a child, toys are always too rare and to choose my own was a precious moment.  I remember quite clearly a plastic sailboat that I could snap together.   Perhaps it was my attempt at an homage of the big 1800's sailboats docked at South Sea Port. Odd choice for a child of the lower east side who either walked along the East River or rode the ferry, but never step foot into the 'sailing' culture until the age of 30.

Adults seem endless in their years, never aging, always staying the same, but one day I was told Dr. Lowenthal had retired.  A new dentist, one right by Macy's, had taken his place.  And I, now a 12 year-old teenager, was responsible to get myself there for the yearly check-up.

Somehow, when house and home began to descend into fractured words and silent rage, the care of my teeth had fallen through the cracks.  After 10 years of perfect checkups, I suddenly had 13 cavities, The new dentist, who hummed tunelessly as he work, filled them, one by one, week after week. 

And after, not quite understanding how I really felt about just everything, I'd head over to the sweets shop, tucked into the corner of Macy's and, in place of a box of new toys, buy forbidden pieces of fudge and other bad sticky things that tugged at a mouth full of metal.

*Washington Heights: from Louise181st St stop on the A train, around the corner to 180th St.  I don’t remember the avenue, but I was there perhaps 20 yrs ago (can’t remember the circumstances) and recognized it and knew where the building was.  The stops on that part of the line have exits onto Ft. Washington Ave and to Overlook Terrace or Bennett Ave.  Wikipedia says the escalator (which we took) was at the 181st St end and an elevator was at the north end.  Dr. Lowenthal used to go hiking in the Alps during the summer and had a beautiful photo of mountains to look at while sitting in the chair.  His receptionist was Mrs. Dee.

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Friday, June 14, 2013

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving And A Work Of Art!

There's a reason Friday's Child is now a part 
of Her New York, if only to say thank you.
 
IT'S CATS!

 IT'S KITTENS!  

IT'S ART!


The Cat Show' will celebrate kitties and raise awareness about homeless pets in the city. The centerpiece of this huge, eclectic installation will be 'The Cats-in-Residence Program' where adoptable strays from Social Tees Animal Rescue* (partner for the project) will hang out in an artist-designed cat habitat - and maybe even find forever homes at the adoption events that will open and close the show.

June 13-July 20, 2013, White Columns, NYC.

Featuring 'The Cats-in-Residence Program' June 14/15 and July 19/20. 



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A HOME FOR THIS BUDDY WILL BE READY IN THREE WEEKS
UNTIL THEN, HE NEEDS A FOSTER HOME!


One of SOCIAL TEES' most absolute favorite fans recently adopted this 15-year-old boy, but she can't take him home until she moves... so this old, sweet boy need a three-week foster home for him!

He needs to be the only cat in the house because he's a glutton for attention -- he will meow at you for love when he's feeling cuddly! 

If you can foster this boy starting ASAP, please call SOCIAL TEES at 917-612-4163 where he is currently staying.

WHAT'S FOSTERING, YOU WONDER?!

Fostering lasts a few weeks, and Social Tees can provide supplies if you need them.  Fostering is SUPER important because it's much healthier for our animals to be in homes than in cages, and it expands our shelter virtually.

AND for every cat and dog that is placed in a foster home, Social Tees can pull another out of the kill shelter. So if you are an animal-lover with commitment issues, FOSTER!!!

For more info on fostering, email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or check out our FAQs here:

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MAX AND PENNY!

Max and Penny are THE most adorable kittens on the planet! They are Manx mixes -- Penny has a tail and gallops around like a regular cat, but Max has no tail and hops like a bunny. Both have super beautiful smoke coats -- their fur is gray and chocolate colored -- and their eyes are a stunning blue/green! 

Max and Penny are absolutely attached at the hip, so THEY MUST BE ADOPTED AS A PAIR. They are about 12 weeks old and as wonderfully rambunctious as kittens get. They're like little werewolves! They're also extremely socialized thanks to their amazing foster home, so they adore cuddling, climbing all over you, scaling your pants legs, and being held like babies.

If you are interested in adopting these kittens, please email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com for an application asap! They are currently in a foster home but will make a guest appearance at one of SOCIAL TEES' adoption events this weekend...


***
Do you want to meet these guys and all the other great pups and kitties at Social Tees, but you're stuck at your desk during the week? Then come to the weekend events at Petco / Union Square!!

OR

If you have questions, answers, money? Money is very helpful... Time?  TIME IS REALLY HELPFUL, although money is nice....

CONTACT SAMANTHA:
samantha.socialtees@gmail.com

Social Tees
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003;
5-7pm Monday to Friday
12-4pm  Saturday and Sunday at Petco at Union Square
212-614-9653;
socialteesnyc.org

Thursday, June 13, 2013

A (Dentist's) Room With A View


Working there for two years already, the dental assistant had never seen it. 

Well, it wasn't like she had any time to look out the window, what with vacuuming out spit from people's mouths, handing sharp instruments to the dentist and getting x-rays.

I had time because we were all waiting for the drugs to kick in. 

So I got to look out the window and wondered about that beautiful script writing and if MM bags had secretaries who wore serious red lipsticks, shopped at Macy's and had the pick of the best pocketbooks in New York City.

Tuesday, June 11, 2013

The Promise



Summer was going to fill the 100 years of stairs soon.  But the cat was ready, already hunting for future delights and sniffing places he was sure that next time his prey would be right there, waiting for him.

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Sunday, June 9, 2013

Sunday Memories: Beneath Your Surface


The Miro poster had been found on the street, but I prefer to believe that it had run away from an unloving home because the minute it hung over the stove it looked like it had always been there.

And the cupboard next to it, stripped twenty, maybe twenty-five years ago by a generous neighbor for about $100, maybe less, probably less, revealed almost a hundred years of secrets from all the other people who had lived in that kitchen, each one passionately painting over the previous version of a beautiful haven.

At that time, that cupboard was all I could afford to have stripped.  The rest of the house stayed buried under a century of paint and every decade or so, I'd add to it, resigned that there was no other choice.

Once in a while, while cooking tea, or praying coffee would percolate faster, I'd stare at the remnants left from all the painting over of other people's histories and wonder what each color meant to each person who had put it there.

But now these different days were welcoming in a new era.  And those histories, as much as they told interesting stories, had never been mine.  I wanted a fresh beginning, not one that started with a yet another covering over of a century's worth of paint, but one that removed and revealed what was beneath the surface.
  
"But beneath your surface
you know what you must
your love is calling
and it's reaching out to you"

**
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Friday, June 7, 2013

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving And The Best Part Of Life!!!!



 There's a reason Friday's Child is now a part 
of Her New York, if only to say thank you.

OUR HOUSE IS A VERY, VERY FINE HOUSE
WITH TWO CATS IN THE YARD
LIFE USED TO BE SO HARD
NOW EVERYTHING IS EASY


The cool cat-loving woman who adopted these two kitties back in the day said: "I have the sweetest mommy and baby cats I adopted from you. They are the happiest little lovers who live amongst another adopted cat, two old big adopted dogs, and two human babies.... LOVE Social Tees and all the work you do!!"

A FACE SO UGLY ONLY
A (FOSTER) MOTHER COULD LOVE IT!!


THIS CUTE-UGLY DOG NEEDS A FOSTER HOME!!!!

Dingo, a poor old pittie mix that we rescued from a neglect case a few weeks ago, needs a new foster home asap! He gets loads of attention on the street for his adorably ugly little mug. He was starved and lost a lot of fur before we took him in, and now he's slowly gaining weight and growing his coat back. 


But he's spunky as ever, loves to go for walks, and has a super hearty appetite. He's great with other dogs AND cats... and everyone he meets! Plus, he's crate trained. This wonderful boy had a very hard start to life -- now he deserves a relaxing home where he can play and soak up the love he deserves.

WHAT'S FOSTERING, YOU WONDER?!

Fostering lasts a few weeks, and Social Tees can provide supplies if you need them.  Fostering is SUPER important because it's much healthier for our animals to be in homes than in cages, and it expands our shelter virtually.
AND for every cat and dog that is placed in a foster home, Social Tees can pull another out of the kill shelter. So if you are an animal-lover with commitment issues, FOSTER!!!
For more info on fostering, email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or check out our FAQs here:

MOTHER AND CHILD REUNION 
THAT'S NOT ON THE MENU!


THIS MOM AND HER KITTEN NEED A HOME!!!

For now, they're chilling in Social Tees' front window. Both are teeny-tiny, wonderfully friendly and playful girls with slender bodies and lovely torbie coats. This cute pair loves to frolic and nap as a unit, so Social Tees is hoping to find them a home together. 


***

Do you want to meet these guys and all the other great pups and kitties at Social Tees, but you're stuck at your desk during the week? Then come to the weekend events at Petco / Union Square!!

OR

If you have questions, answers, money? Money is very helpful... Time?  TIME IS REALLY HELPFUL, although money is nice....

CONTACT SAMANTHA:
samantha.socialtees@gmail.com

Social Tees
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003;
5-7pm Monday to Friday
12-4pm  Saturday and Sunday at Petco at Union Square
212-614-9653;
socialteesnyc.org

Thursday, June 6, 2013

Message In A Lamp


Usually when fate wants to send a message, it puts it in a bottle.

This one came in a lamp.

Joni had made it out of a music stand.  An electric blue 1960s or 70's metal ball was the lamp shade and you could make it taller or shorter.

Florence kept it for years.  It charmed her.  Not so much that it was a music stand, but that Joni had made it.  And during one of their last visits, all three - the lamp, Florence and Joni - came together in the same room.   (That's the lamp all the way in the back by the window.)

However, Florence had even less of an idea than I did that things could be repaired or healed or improved or made better.  What was awful was awful; what was broken was broken.  And only a swipe of an attempt could be made before returning to what really mattered - practicing, writing, pondering and then practicing again.

So, in the place of repairmen, things were slapped together in bizarre ways.

Which is how that note, worthy of a bottle, was found.

In these halcyon days of making things better, Gloria at NY Brass Lighting was unwrapping layers of electrical tape that kept together the music stand lamp.  From that sticky mass, a piece of folded up paper fell to our feet.

Worried it might contain a message or note only I should see, Gloria said, "You open it."

 I did.

It was a piece of sheet music, torn in half, folded many times into a wedge, stuck between broken hinges and taped to the music stand.

I took a closer look.  It was Chopin.  A nocturne.   One that filled childhood mornings with the grief of summer light.

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Tuesday, June 4, 2013

To Continue On


It wasn't just the Cove closing, the buildings being torn down, the bookstores and bodegas eaten alive by boutiques and expensive lattes that even tested my love of coffee.

It wasn't just the bees dying, the glaciers melting, the trees that allow us to breathe being cut down.

It wasn't just the feeling of futility noting words that demanded change, only to be outshouted by the actions of greed.

It was all of it and more.  That more that didn't come in details, but in finality.

It was the slow loss of hope that everyone could, as they came to that moment, die in a world that was just and kind, loving and respectful.  Moving through the seasons with respect.

I don't know what made me pick up my camera that day and take a picture of Florence and me holding hands as we sang Buddhist sutras together.  

I wasn't willing to admit it then, but that day marked the beginning of losing hope that what I saw wasn't really happening. 

That picture, oh that picture. 

Years later I would look at it and be reminded that she and I went through the loss of hope, holding each others' hands and singing words that soothed our souls and opened our hearts so we could fully face what was not just or fair or kind or loving. 

Looking for Her New York as it literally turns to dust and then rises into expensive glass has become that picture.  A drink at a bar, a conversation with a neighbor, a longing for a roll, the painting in the museum's hallway, a transistor radio.  Art scrawled on a box and left in the middle of a sidewalk.  They all become that picture, defying assumptions and speaking loud and clear.  Facing loss of hope, continuing on.

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Sunday, June 2, 2013

Sunday Memories: Last Call




We all heard the news.  Developers had just bought East 14th Street and were going to raze everything, including the Blarney Cove.

I had passed the Cove for years.  Never went in.  I went to a dive on St. Marks until an unfortunate incident.  (Hint:  don't have a bad affair with the bartender of a bar you call home unless you don’t want to hang out there anymore.)

Besides, the Cove didn’t seem like a place for a girl like me.  Those guys were having shots at 8 in morning and I was too old for that kind of pissing contest.

I was also too broke for more than one round.  Not when for $5 more I could buy the bottle at the Astor Warehouse.

So, I'd pass the Cove and never go in. Even after the neighborhood blogger, Goggla told me it was great.  Even after I married a new drinking partner.

But suddenly it was now or never.  I said to the husband, let’s go to 14th Street.  We need socks and a couple of places sell a dozen for $6.99.  And then maybe after, the Cove for a drink.

We headed east but the further we got the worse things looked.  It was like Close Encounters of the Third Kind when Richard Dreyfuss slipped into the restricted area and saw all these dead cows.

Store after store were empty with 'For Rent' or 'Going Out Of Business' signs in the windows.  Even the cheap department store was gutted - 40 years of affordable shit, gone.

There was only one cheap stall left in the last remaining tenement.  The guy there told us the landlord had refused to sell to the developers, but eventually they'd win and buy the place – “they always do”, he said.  Meanwhile, he had a dozen socks for $5.00.

A couple of steps east was the Cove.  We peeked in and saw Christmas lights twinkling and a baseball game on both TVs.

"If it's the Yankees, I’m not going in...." the husband mumbled.

They changed one of the TVs to the Mets vs the Marlins, we got Rolling Rocks in big-ass glasses because Pabst only came in tall boys, and the guy at the end of the bar played every baseball song on the jukebox for us, including one about being a Mets fan (which really should be categorized as a mental disorder) . 

I asked the bartender when they were closing.  "End of June." she said.  "It's sad."

Then a couple of more regulars came in.  The bartender spoke to everyone, everyone spoke to everyone and I said to the husband, "Well, if we were not old hermetic writers who were always broke, this would be a good bar for us."

The 6th inning made it clear the Mets would lose.  Again. The beers were $3 each.

"Leave a big tip," I told the husband.

"$2?"

"No.  $3."

After all, they were closing and we weren’t going to get another chance before the end of June to say goodbye to a bar that, if we weren't too old, too broke, too hermetic, we'd go to.



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Friday, May 31, 2013

FREE LOVE!!! FREE LOVE!!!! Friday's Child is Loving and Giving and LOVING AND GIVING IT FREE!!!


FREE ADOPTIONS THIS WEEKEND!!!!


Come to Petco at Union Square!!!


Saturday 12 - 5 and Sunday 12 - 5


Interested??? 

Write Samantha 

samantha.socialtees@gmail.com 

To fill out a preadoption application so you can be qualified to adopt a new pet (for free!) this coming weekend!

Thursday, May 30, 2013

In My Dreams


Before yet another early doctor visit, I asked Florence what she wanted to eat.

"A roll.  With butter."

She got hers from the corner carts or at Zafi's.  When she was young, her friends and admirers could find her in the morning at the neighborhood's luncheonette having her one meal of the day - a coffee and a roll,

I once indulged with one from the French bakery that used to be on 6th Avenue.  It looked like any other basic bakery, but big enough for tables and everybody went there in the morning for a cup of coffee and whatever pastry or bread they wanted.  The baker used to bake on Grand Street.  I got an onion roll with butter and almost died and went to heaven.

One of Florence's ways to say good-bye to, well, just about everyone - doctors, nurses, me, strangers on the bus - was, as she trotted away, to call back over her shoulder, "See you in my dreams!"

That bakery is gone.

So's my mom.

So are rolls in my diet.

See you in my dreams.

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Sunday Memories: Fine Dining At Chez PS 134

Tuesday, May 28, 2013

Danger Is As Danger Does


A couple of friends lived in Stuy Town.  It was, like everything else in the city, I guess - dangerous even with all the trees and the fountain that didn't always spurt. In those days you just walked where you were going, and being on the lookout was like having a token in your pocket.  Prepared.

A whole lot of teachers lived there.  So did everyone else who ran the city - like the post office workers and sanitation and the firemen (and then the firefighters when they let in women) and people who worked in the neighborhood and the business owners who sold us frames for glasses or pictures or a bottle of booze or sponges to clean the counter.

I went to Stuy Town once maybe during college or high school for a party.  A pain in the ass to find the front door of her building.

Later on, the city still technically dangerous, someone took me there to kiss.  It was really late at night so nobody was around because it was dangerous to be out late at night but when you wanna kiss a girl and you're a girl and you're still in the kissing stage, you get to know the corners in the city too dark to be dangerous but dark enough to kiss.

And after that, I went there day or night, by myself when I needed to hear what my soul was really saying or with friends, with lovers, with hopeful possibilities.  I went there with delicious babies and little kids so they could play in a really cool playground.  I went there with people I loved and cared for. Dangerous or not, it was quieter than Second Avenue.  Sometimes you just need a little quiet.

The city got less dangerous, the trees got greener and suddenly all these bushes and flowers were all over Stuy Town.  And then one day that fountain was up and running.   That place was like having the perfect country place with a 10 minute commute back to the city.

And everybody who ran the city still lived there.  Like the retired detective who told us about a great Italian restaurant and bar that wasn't filled with post-college kids doing East Village gourmet.  And the freelance arts administrator who put together projects that made upsetting ideas, like um other religions, palatable and understandable through documentary collections, and the 89 year old writer who had grown up on Ludlow Street and talked to me about journalism for women in the 1940s after complaining about how bad Ludlow Street was (a tee shirt for $60? you crazy?).

The biggest difference was that at night it wasn't deserted.  It was filled with us, walking dogs, smoking a cigarette, kissing on a bench.  Sitting by that fountain which was now up and running and very nicely lit.

But danger's a broad concept.  The danger I grew up with - the one that taught me how to walk from dark corner to dark corner - that kind of danger now is on tv shows or reported with indignation in the Daily News because it's just isn't expected.

No, now there are new kinds of dangers in the city and now in Stuy Town.  Owners attempting to illegally evict people or change rent laws or just ignore them and rents only manageable for much wealthier people than the ones keeping this city running and then new owners getting new rulings and changing things and stores that sold what you needed being kicked out for stores that sell things you really don't need or can't afford or a lot of times, organic frozen yogurt.  And people, like the ones who keep this city going, suddenly not living in the neighborhood but living in a real estate market.

There are bedbugs and rent increases-or-else-move notices.  There are elevators not working (and when you got older folks that's dangerous).  There's management entering apartments without permission (which is also just weird) and there's been robberies without force entry.

Yeah.

But, with those dangers comes the danger of pissed-off New Yorkers.  You know, the ones who keep this city running? When you piss them off, they get organized.  Now, they're not just called neighbors.  They're called a Tenants Association.

Sunday, May 26, 2013

Sunday Memories Encore For Memorial Weekend: Part Three: Home Where My Love Lies Sleeping

Recovering from 12 hour days, a remembrance of long ago moments:

Originally posted May 30, 2010
and the last in a series posted while on the road.



Happy Memorial Day, a day where we honor fallen soldiers of many wars, some that happened between apartment walls, others inside a hidden broken heart.



Friday, May 24, 2013

Friday's Child is Loving and Giving and Utterly Adorable!

O.M.GAWWWWWDD!!!!
a.k.a. GUESS WHO GOT ADOPTED!!!???



Remember little Mills (now Nigel), the Maltese mix that was found wandering lost and lonely under the Williamsburg Bridge on a rainy day in February? 

Well, a few days later he won a pup-loving couple over with his exuberant energy and sunny disposition, and they adopted him! He was immediately at home, finding hiding spots all over the house for his toys and insisting that his rightful spot was on their lap anytime the couple sat down. 

Nigel quickly became a key part of the family, and his humans are so happy to have found him! Nigel is clearly VERY happy to have found them, too.

OH TAKE ME IN YOUR ARMS 
FOSTER ME 
I WANT YOUR TENDER CHARMS!
Photo: CAN ANYONE FOSTER THIS AWESOME LITTLE PUFF BALL?
First of all, does this dog look like Drew Barrymore circa her E.T. days, or is it just us? (Seriously -- Google image search "Drew Barrymore E.T." and tell us we're wrong...) Anyway, this little guy needs a foster home starting tonight! He's a  super friendly, affectionate, and fully housebroken Shih Tzu mix named Benji. He's about 9 years old and 15 pounds. Sadly, he ended up homeless when his owner recently passed away. He's generally friendly with other dogs though he barks at some of them, and he likes to chase cats but isn't aggressive with them. Benji (who we call Drew and then giggle) is spunky, loving, super soft, and hypoallergenic! Oh -- he needs a forever home too if anyone is interested in adopting...

If you can foster this little pup (15 pounds) starting tonight, please email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or call 917-612-4163! WE NEED YOUR HELP!!! PLEASE SHARE!!!


WHO IS THIS AWESOME LITTLE PUFF BALL?

It's Drew Barrymore's doppelganger, circa her E.T. day


Well, you can't foster Drew Barrymore, and besides she's all grown up and a movie mogul.

BUT YOU CAN FOSTER BENJI, HER LOOK ALIKE!!!

Benji is a super friendly, affectionate, and fully housebroken Shih Tzu mix.

He's about 9 years old and 15 pounds. Sadly, he ended up homeless when his owner recently passed away.  He's generally friendly with other dogs though he barks at some of them, and he likes to chase cats but isn't aggressive with them. Benji (who we call Drew and then giggle) is spunky, loving, super soft, and hypoallergenic! Oh -- he needs a forever home too if anyone is interested in adopting...

If you can foster this little pup (15 pounds) starting tonight, please email !!!!


samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or call 917-612-4163

WHAT'S FOSTERING, YOU WONDER?!

Fostering lasts a few weeks, and Social Tees can provide supplies if you need them.  Fostering is SUPER important because it's much healthier for our animals to be in homes than in cages, and it expands our shelter virtually.

AND for every cat and dog that is placed in a foster home, Social Tees can pull another out of the kill shelter. So if you are an animal-lover with commitment issues, FOSTER!!!
For more info on fostering, email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or check out our FAQs here:

INCOMING PUPPY!!!


Paisley

PAISELY WAS JUST RESCUED FROM TENNESSEE!!!!!!

And she's arriving in New York Saturday May 25th!!!!!

Paisely, an 8-week-old Lab/Chow mix, is as sweet as pudding and friendly as can be. She's excellent with other dogs, cats, and kids, and she's sssoooooo playful!  Everything you could want from a puppy.

 If you are interested, please email Dimitra at the address below to fill out a preadoption application.

DIMITRA.SOCIALTEES@GMAIL.COM

Due to the very high number of emails we receive daily, it sometimes takes a while to respond to all of them. Please have patience.Full medical included. (All dogs come with spay/neuter, vaccines, and microchip and are dewormed, demited, and deflead.) Adoption fees apply.

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Do you want to meet these guys and all the other great pups and kitties at Social Tees, but you're stuck at your desk during the week? Then come to the weekend events at Petco / Union Square!!

OR

If you have questions, answers, money? Money is very helpful... Time?  TIME IS MORE HELPFUL THAN MONEY, although money is nice....

CONTACT SAMANTHA:
samantha.socialtees@gmail.com

Social Tees
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003;
5-7pm Monday to Friday
12-4pm  Saturday and Sunday at Petco at Union Square
212-614-9653;
socialteesnyc.org

Thursday, May 23, 2013

Encore: Old School High Tech

 In the midst of 12 hour days, a revisit to long ago moments. 

Originally posted July14, 2009




Before ipods, before walkmans, before tvs, before cable, even before satellites left the world of sci-fi and went into the sky, it was a transistor radio stuck to your ear, the crackle of the announcer "foul... rbi... and he's... OH AND IT'S.... bullpen... " and the fiddling of the tiny dial, not a button preset, but a precise touch and turn that required the finesse of an ancient watchmaker.

Tuesday, May 21, 2013

Encore: Sunnyside Up

In the midst of 12 hour days, a revisit to long ago moments. 

Originally posted July 21, 2009




The maintenance guys had to get in immediately because something was leaking somewhere.  Luckily I still had an emergency $20 tucked away so I grabbed a taxi to Florence's.

The dashing driver and I talked about the decrease of taxi use and the possibility of driving a bus. He asked what I did.

"I'm an out-of-work writer."

"Oh! You can write about me."

So I took a picture and, handing him my card, told him to check the blog in a couple of days.

"I don't just drive a taxi." And he handed me his card. There, dashing smile and all, was his picture next to bright bold letters announcing SUNNYSIDE REAL ESTATE: All Your Residential and Business Needs Met!

"You're like in the two worst professions to be in during a recession,” I said in disbelief.

He laughed, said, "What can you do? You work."

Knock down 7, get up 8.

Sunday, May 19, 2013

Sunday Memories: The Future Look Of Love




That's Delancy Street behind them.  I have a billion memories there.

This couple,  they talk non-stop and in between words sometimes he puts his head on her shoulder and sometimes she gives him kisses on his cheek and he reads over her shoulder and they make sure they understand where he's getting off, where's she getting off, where they meet later or what stop is coming up...

I pretended I am captivated by something on my phone, just like everybody else on the train.  But really I am taking pictures of memories to come.

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Related Posts:

The Look of Love: Part One

The Look of Love: Part Two

Sunday Memories: The Look of Love

Friday, May 17, 2013

Friday's Child Is Loving And Giving: Raise! Nourish! Encourage! FOSTER!!!!


FOSTER
to promote the growth or development of; 
further; 
encourage: 
to foster new ideas; 
 to bring up, raise, or rear; 
to care for or cherish; 
to feed or nourish.


Besides a bunch of great words, there are thousands of reasons to foster.  

Here's one - a gentle giant (82lbs),  SUPER MELLOW, sleeps a lot, loves all dogs and cats and needs a place to crash for a few days so he doesn't have to go to the shelter....



Here's a couple of more reasons to foster:  They're all under 15 pounds so studio apartments would be perfect!


But sometimes fostering means you GET loved more than you GIVE love.

Meet Rihanna.


She's a 18-month-old pittie mix with a freckled coat and a ton of love to give. She's not great with other animals so she needs to be the only pet in the house, but she's a huge snuggle bug and amazingly sweet with every human (including kids!) that she meets. 

She loves to give kisses and snuggle in your lap. Plus, she's house broken! Rihanna is about 45 pounds and currently at Social Tees in the East Village. If you can foster Rihanna starting tonight or want more info, please call 917-612-4163 asap! THANK YOU!!!!


WHAT'S FOSTERING, YOU WONDER?!

Fostering lasts a few weeks, and Social Tees can provide supplies if you need them.  Fostering is SUPER important because it's much healthier for our animals to be in homes than in cages, and it expands our shelter virtually.
AND for every cat and dog that is placed in a foster home, Social Tees can pull another out of the kill shelter. So if you are an animal-lover with commitment issues, FOSTER!!!
For more info on fostering, email samantha.socialtees@gmail.com or check out our FAQs here:

Do you want to meet these guys and all the other great pups and kitties at Social Tees, but you're stuck at your desk during the week? Then come to the weekend events at Petco / Union Square!!

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CONTACT SAMANTHA:
samantha.socialtees@gmail.com

Social Tees
325 East 5th Street, NY, NY 10003;
5-7pm Monday to Friday
12-4pm  Saturday and Sunday at Petco at Union Square
212-614-9653;
socialteesnyc.org

Thursday, May 16, 2013

Company


Growing up, I had only seen geese in children books and maybe on one of the Central Park ponds.  Later, when venturing out of New York, sometimes at one of those New Jersey turnpike rest stops or along a fast interstate,  I'd catch a glimpse here and there.

So, just blocks from home, in that massive empty lot destined to become exclusive living spaces for very rich people, to see those two swim together was like something out of a movie that had special effects.

Somehow, in the midst of an inhospitable world they had found, however brief it might be, a home.  Watching them, I too felt that, for however brief, I had too.

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Related Posts:

Pets Of Our Lives: Part 1-Pigeons

Pets Of Our Lives: Part 2-Squirrels

Pets Of Our Lives: Part 3-Horses

Pets Of Our Lives: Part 4-Cats